Oftentimes one of the scariest things about relationships is that our partner can see into all of the parts of ourselves that we keep hidden from the world- including the parts of us that are dark, our demons, our fears, parts we don’t see etc.

There can be fear that comes up around how can someone love me and still choose me even if I am dark, or with all of my skeletons in my closet and most of all how can someone love me with the dark past I have and all the bad things I have done?

Your past does not define you my love and someone can see into your darkness and everything you are fighting and have been through and still choose and love you… you are worthy.

Oftentimes in relationships we will get scared when things get deeper, we become more connected, the relationship can go into a deeper level and/or things start to get intense and we start to develop feelings and can start to pull away or leave because our own fears, projections and mind start to run wild.

Relationships are not easy as they take a lot of work and require you to choose each other each day and honor a commitment to each other to make it work.

The feminine opens up when there is consistency, his presence, transparency, knows where she stands with him and is seen in her oracle by the masculine.

The feminine needs commitment and consistency in order to fully give everything, open up and bloom and let the masculine into her waters and magic otherwise it is not safe for her because the masculine is flighty and she will close up her energy and her heart.

The masculine wants to give, lead and create/hold the vision + container, come up with solutions and be dedicated To the mission… which includes the feminine.

The feminine will show the masculine where the blind spots are in the vision as she sees in the darkness and the masculine listens and honors her ability to see as the two create a deeper level of trust.

The feminine needs to know the masculine is fully in as she will always know when he is half way in and half way out through his presence, how consistent he is, if he threatens to leave the relationship when things are not going his way or threatens it with outside influences from other women, friends, family etc.

She needs to know that the relationship is protected by him and that he is dedicated the the building of their kingdom, only then can they both fully thrive as their more powerful together and his blessings and gifts and unlocked by the feminine as she… (that’s for another post)

The feminine wants to be taken by her masculine deep within his waters and he yearns for her thirst, but both must honor their part as they are not enemies but rather one soul.

We get to let go of the masculine against feminine and vice versa that has been fed through society and honor each other’s differences as each is beautiful in its own way.

The masculine is beautiful in all ways and so is the feminine.

The life/death/life cycle in a relationship reminds us of the beauty in the darkness and being reborn over and over again in love with the same person as it creates deeper intimacy as you see each other fully and still choose each other.