For many women their mother was the the villain + the enemy as she was would tear down the daughter, discourage her dreams, slut shame her, constantly judge her body, withhold food and nutrition from her body to fit a certain body image, tell her who she could and couldn’t love, create an unsafe environment for her and gaslight her all her life.

Now this is not every single mother and there could be times where this is not true, but for a majority of women this is the truth… the mother was/is the biggest enemy.

The mother archetype is nurturing, caring, loving, a teacher, a caregiver and so much more as she brings you into this world to teach you all that she knows so that you can go higher and supports your process of going higher by teaching you self care, love, emotions etc.

For many women though the “mother” was non-existent- the birth giver was around but the mother was nowhere to be found as she was emotionally unavailable, not present and caught up in delusion. This person never taught the daughter love, emotions, how to take care of herself or even prepare her for life- she had to raise herself.

Instead she would judge her body, tell her to stick in her stomach, no more food you are getting fat, don’t wear that you look like a slut, you will never find love, your dreams are not possible, you can’t do that, you will never be successful, you’re a liar, you never do anything right, you’re lazy, you don’t know what you’re talking about etc.

It is in this that the daughter created self judgment, fear, controlling behaviors, lack of trust for self, not feeling safe and shaming her own body.

It was the mother who would send evil eyes to the daughter as she was jealous of her and her body. It was the mother who was jealous of her daughters light and power and soon to be success- so she kept her small.

It was the moments that the daughter wanted her mothers approval and love because society would say that your mom is who you should turn to- but it was the one person who was unsafe- which created confusion and distortion in the child.

This can go for men too.

It was in the moments that the mother would choose lovers over the child and chasing after their own validation that the child felt abandoned and unloved.

It was in the moments that something traumatic happened to the child and the mother wouldn’t believe the child and instead cover up for others bad behavior- leaving the child to feel unsafe, unseen, unloved and unheard.

It is in the moments where there was conditional love as the child had to perform for love and if they did/said something wrong that they were punished or got the silent treatment which resulted in always being in their best behavior, not speaking up and not wanting the rock the boat.

During Cancer season we are asked to see the story of the mother and clear the projections as they were never ours to begin with and learn to re-mother ourselves.

Forgive her and understand how this relationship and everything you went through affects not only your life but all of your relationships as well.

As you rewrite the story you will be able to rewrite your relationships into healthy ones as well.

Love yourself deeply as there is much wisdom in the pearl.