My love, lean on your masculine… FULLY LEAN ON YOUR MASCULINE.

Let go of the masculine role, take off the armor and let the masculine fully show up for you, it takes great strength to do so and they want to hold and support you, but they can not if you are combative and fighting back with your masculine… drop into your feminine and receive.

As women we have been conditioned that we can do everything, we must be independent + rely only ourselves and handle everything like a boss… yes all this may be true but it leaves out the beauty of letting a masculine hold you.

This “I can do everything myself and don’t need anyone to help me” mentality leaves you feeling burnt out, unsupported, feeling unworthy, left out and most of all keeps you running around in circles trying to “prove your worth”.

Growing up women have been secretly taught from their (grand)parents to stash money away in case the masculine leaves, that you can’t rely on a man for anything, that the man will always leave/cheat, that men don’t know how to lead, cant trust him to lean on him, can’t trust a man to provide for you, that the masculines bad behavior is okay because they “provide”, you don’t have an identity unless it is tied into the masculine, shut your mouth when you don’t like something or they will leave, your “clock” is ticking so have a baby and put your dreams on hold because no one wants a woman who can’t produce when she is older, boys will be boys, men do not protect you anymore you have to protect yourself etc.

We can end up holding so much shame, guilt and anger in the body toward the masculine as we are taught to not trust them due to misuse of the body to “keep” a man or even just the stories we have been told.

So to keep ourselves safe we have taken on the masculine role and disguised it as being feminine, because we fear fully leaning on the masculine to provide, stay loyal + commitment and lead us, because none have done so consistently.

So we had to build strong foundations because we have never had the masculine around to support us so yes build the business + home + money up and do all that you can to create your foundation, but there is a time that a masculine will come along and want to build with you and support you… let yourself lean into it.

When we stay in our masculine we take away the role of the true masculine providing an stepping up for us. We take away their need to lead, to show up and to take care of us. Leaning on the masculine can feel scary because for most of your relationships they have leaned on you- but times are changing and now you can lean on them fully and drop into your feminine.

I know there can be a fear but what if they can’t show up for me, use me, take advantage, deceive me etc., but my love what if they don’t? What if they show up fully, committed and consistently and stand in that beautiful masculine that they are?

You Love that masculine to death even if you try to deny it- your heart knows the truth and vise versa… so remove all the defenses, the barriers and transcend your egos so you two can become partners + teammates.

You both bring something unique to the table and need both qualities of DM + DF… allow yourself to trust fall and let the masculine show up and hold you. Once they do so you can drop fully into your feminine even more and nurture them in the ways they want to as well.

Breathe and let them lead + hold space for you.