In love there is a life/death/life cycle as it asks you to completely burn down your egos, pains, identities, past discretions, issues, grudges, resentment, ideas, restrictions, expectations etc in the old home + foundation you two have built so that two of you can grow to build something more strong and solid together.

That does not mean it is done between you two but rather the old cycle, karma and way of doing things is- as you two can now come closer into each other, lean on each other and rebuild as you come back to those roots of love.

No matter how bad the situation is, your heart will always bring you back home to each other.

Honor the process as each one of you learns lessons, awakens deeper and understands/appreciates each other more.

Relationships are not perfect and there are never perfect circumstances or situations- life is going to happen and you can work on a biz, on yourself and on your life while in a relationship. You get to have it all.

Oftentimes when ish goes down in relationships we want to burn the whole relationship up and throw it out and focus on the problems, lack and it not working out when instead it’s actually a beautiful opportunity for you both to grow deeper into each other as you are each other’s greatest teacher.

We can get caught up in our own wounds, pains and triggers and want to run or shut down or even get caught up in what the other person was/is doing that we don’t like or cast blame on them for how we are reacting or how the relationship is. This is the space to take accountability as both play a part and to look deeper and to sit and ask questions of how is this making you feel? Where is this triggering you and why? Go deep into the root as you will see it has nothing to do the with the relationship but often something else. This is a space to understand each other and to help each other heal. You are each other’s team mate- not enemy.

When we don’t like what someone is doing in the relationship we must ask ourselves where do we have those traits.

If we feel the person is not present- where are we not present?

If we feel they are not committing- where are we not committing?

If we feel they are 

If we feel they are not showing up- where are we not?

If we feel they are not open or honest- where are we not?

Everything is a mirror in our relationship… to do better for ourselves and for each other.

A relationship asks you to have many deaths and rebirths of the ego and identity of the relationship in order to make it work and keep falling deeply in love over and over again.

You can always make it work but we must listen to understand, honor the differences in each other, love the light and dark in each other, honor the good and bad times and lean on each other by creating a safe space.

Both of you want to come together and it is time. You are each other’s greatest healers, lovers, teachers and in today’s way of relationships what you have is rare.

Your heart always comes back to each other so keep choosing each other over and over again.