Relationship Shadows  Relationships are on the hot seat  front and center- and as a result shadows are being revealed from all that spotlight. 

There is a huge emphasis on relationships right now due to Venus leading the show- as we just had a Full Super Moon in Libra, Venus in Gemini in the shadows, and not to mention we are in the third decan of Aries which is ruled by Jupiter and Venus. 

Oh and Mercury joined Chiron in Aries adding to the emotional healing and emotional woundings coming to the surface. 

We are being asked to dive deeper into our shadows and healing within ourselves and relationships. 

Some wounds that can be coming up are around emotional security in a relationship, trust issues, sexual trauma, abandonment, fear of commitment, not feeling worthy enough, not feeling supported, feelings of not being heard/understood, feelings of the relationship not lasting, losing yourself in a relationship , not wanting to let people in/express love, running from love, not showing up etc. 

When we grow up with emotional insecurities, traumas, lack of parental love, security and acknowledgment we learn to internalize this from a subconscious level and then create it in our relationships. 

If we grew up seeing our parent(s) acting out with fighting, switching partners all the time, craving love or feeling unworthy of love, being in unhealthy relationships, chasing after a new partner for the high, cheating, using partners for their gain etc. than this is what we know and think is “normal” and will recreate it in our relationships. 

To have a healthy relationship with yourself or with others takes a lot of work, communication, loyalty, commitment, faith, trust and love.

With all the shadows and woundings being brought up this week from the cosmos it is no denying that this is a huge space to heal.

When the wounds come up we need to observe our actions. 

Do you avoid healing when things get hard and you must go deeper?

Do you run for yourself or others? 

Do you go back to old patterns, habits, convenience, numbing out, what is easy etc.? How are you helping and holding space yourself in these times? Are you reaching out for support? Are you asking your partner to hold space and listen or do you shut down and shut out in the very moment that could bring you closer to them and to yourself? Do you seek outside of your partner or do you not even let anyone in?

Our partner is a direct reflection of who we are. 

When we deny ourselves we deny our partner. When we are not loyal to ourselves we are not loyal our partner. When we run/hide from ourselves we run/hide from our partner. When we deny our love for ourselves we deny our love for our partner. When we are not loyal/committed/building our vision, plans and dreams we are not loyal/committed/building with our partner. 

How we do one thing is how we do everything. 

The masculine and feminine resides within ourselves and our partners is the external manifestation of that as they are our “other half, rib etc”. To come into balance we must do the work, hold space and honor the divine masculine and divine feminine within us. How are you truly treating yourself? 

When we honor ourselves we go higher and that means in all areas whether it is relationships, health, career etc. 

You can not build if you do not remain focused, disciplined, do the work and loyal to what you truly desire. 

This energy is having us to deep and asking us to allow the wounds/triggers to guide us.

Only when we do the work can we allow ourselves to be set free and receive the love we give. 

Open the heart chakra and let more love in, let it engulf you, teach you and open you up. Run towards love and expand expand the heart wide open!